Hey Girlfriend,
There’s something really special about your first article on a new site, it is a bit like getting into a bed with crisply ironed cleaned sheets. It just feels so so so good. There’s something about business girlfriends, can you feel it – it’s got that box fresh vibe…! 
This is my inaugural Business Girlfriends post…and one that is going straight in deep…and we are talking all about go with the flow…! Now as we are friends, I have to share this with you, that how go with the flow used it isn’t serving you to be all that could be!
I am going to tell you why!
It has become an excuse. A spiritual excuse and cop out and an excuse for rudeness, disrespect and an invitation to be me me me me. Ouch I know, but before you say hang on a moment, Sarupa, you don’t know flow…my flow, let me ask you, what does it mean? I mean really mean to go with the flow?
If the flow you follow makes you flaky, unreliable, stops you earning, stops you living a thriving life with a purpose based business and one where you are working with the most amazing dream clients and generally stops you living your dream? You know the one you had until this flow said its okay you can use me as an excuse …?
Why would you allow yourself to be led even controlled by something that seems to take you deeper and deeper away from adventure, delight and success?
We all have a choice as no flow controls us…
If you choose to not do something, if you choose to drop the ball, watch television instead of working on your business, your book, the housework, whatever it is, then start taking responsibility that you made that choice.
The reason going with the flow doesn’t work for 99% of people who talk of flow…
Most people don’t know what the flow is. One whiff of fear, resistance, doubt, heck even a broken rose petal can be held as a message of stop the track as the imaginary flow has spoken. Except that isn’t flow, none of that is real flow! Real flow is when you follow your soul, and if that word does a little whaaaaaaa to you, it is following your inner wise you that doesn’t let the first sign of resistance change the real flow of your journey to greatness and give you a get out of the lane card!
Fess up time….
I have used the wasn’t in flow excuse in my past, and it was intelligently presented and made as plausible and protected by stories and evidence and you know who was unhappy? Me! That’s why I am sharing this with you, I have been there, fallen into an illusion and trapped myself with validation and felt safe as en masse people were (and still are) all about an imaginary flow, instead of the all knowing, wisest soul flow that has the capacity to move you beyond any limitations and navigate you on a path where you can and do!
I wouldn’t be much of a friend if I let you believe your flow was a force to stop you on your tracks now, would I?
Sarupa Shah xxx
Freshly ironed sheets! That’s the wrong insight to take from this post 🙂
What a great first post, and calling BS on those that blame the Flow for their butterfly ways. Looking forward to the next post
Luckily for me I don’t even have an iron – ditched it in 2014 for good – and have never looked back – 🙂 and yes we need to look at thing as they are and what the outcome is – as if your idea of flow or attachment to the word and needing to be seen as spiritually minded (note the word minded) takes you on a journey like the emperor with no clothes then you are the only one who can change it.. 🙂 It’s good to be getting this site ALIVE!
Interesting! I take your point.. I’m most in my flow when I’m tuned into my ideal clients, in my heart and out
Of my head, being really strategic.. then when it’s high tide i flow down the road for a swim! Less busy work and more focussed work aimed at those who really matter in my life and business.
hey Rosemary – Love how you have used a water analogy – and it’s interesting as my best growth has come when I have swum against the tide not just when I let the tide or flow move me… 🙂 Good to have you here commenting too! xxx